I'm NOT ok!

After a hectic day, of life, love, motherhood, business leadership, and a chiropractic adjustment...

I had an evening session... 

I asked this person how they wanted to use their time...

And after years of working together, 

This person finally said...

“I’ve waited all day to come here and admit that I’m not ok...

I know you always tell me that I can’t run from myself forever so maybe this is me not running. 

The minute I walk out of this office, I’ll be ok again but for now I just need to ask you to hold my not okness with me.

Through tears, they said, “I think I’m really, really sad and I’m judging myself for the sadness.” 

So that’s we did...

We held the sadness and the not okness as sacred visitors that needed to deliver a message...

Years ago, I sat in a “free” conference with Lisa Nichols who shared...

“There is a cost of this seat, it’s a responsibility to go back into the world and cultivate spaces by sharing your gifts where people feel safe enough to take the SuperHuman capes off...

Long enough to embrace their own humanity knowing we can face adversity without feeling as though it will take us out.” 

I never forgot her words or her mandate to stop hiding my gift...

We all need a place where we can go, be human, seen, witnessed and honored both in our humanity and divinity. 

It may be therapy for you...

Transformative therapy, I believe, is the fast track to everything you want. 

Therapy helps you win the game of YOU..

This is what I know for sure, we are broken in relationships and in relationship is where we are healed (NOT always the same relationship). 

We need At least ONE person that you can be completely, brutally, ridiculous honest with me without judgement knowing they only want what’s best for you. 

I’m grateful that I have a few people like this in my life that I cherish. 

We don’t talk everyday...

But I can be as ok or not ok as I am in their presence...unapologetically.

We were not meant to live life in isolation. 

Do what it takes to build relationships with appropriate people where you can show your wounds and scars for the purpose of healing and transformation. 

If you need to work with someone, do that, stop making excuses. 

If you need to join a support group or attend a meeting, do that, stop making excuses.

If you need to cultivate your spiritual life, do it, stop making excuses. 

If you’re the strongest, smartest person you know, then you HAVE to get in a room with people who will challenge YOU to grow and are able to pour into YOU. 

STOP glorifying burnout / mental illness and the complexity of emotions and let’s embrace the fact that mental health deserves as much care and compassion as physical health.